I wouldn’t recommend this at all. Basically to sum the book up, the authors don’t believe avoidant people deserve to be with anyone and will live miserable lives. (I’m not taking personal offense, I’m anxiously attached). But the way these authors hate avoidant people is actually insane.

Which I read this one before my ex and I broke up largely because of our differing attachment styles. This book hit the nail on the head about how things played out and why we could have done differently too be more accepting of our difference attachment styles.

This book has given me a new perspective on dating. Definitely a must read.

Amazing book. I really liked all the research added in the book which helps support all of the claims stated. I also really enjoyed how they kept connecting key point of each chapters in examples and further chapters to keep the main ideas as clear as possible.

Very good read. Ton of revelations.

It really served as a guide to increase awareness into my own attachment style & better navigate relationships with others. 10/10

Very helpful book for therapist

Very enlightening. I needed to read this

It has been a huge relief for me to read this book and understand so many things. Truly life changing for me

I found it informative but there’s alot of scenarios and examples, didn’t need so many. Would like more practice steps on how to become secure as an anxious. Currently single so can’t practice ! lol

Good book

Humans have different ways to connect with others, based on their childhood, relationship dynamics between their parents, and other experiences. This is the book to read if you want to understand whether you and others avoid connection, feel anxious when developing relationships with others, or have a secure mechanism do develop healthy relationships. I really like how the authors provide exercises to identify areas of improvement.

This was an excellent read. Not many books out there that are so forthcoming with data. Attached can be the difference maker in all relationships in your life.

This is a really good book that is easy to read and well structured. I learned about myself and others attachment styles that have helped me understand the various relationships I had in the past as well with current situations.

Very helpful book.

I always knew what was bothering me, I could see habits in my relationship but never understood why.. I knew it wasn’t the petty surface items that was so easy to pick a fight over. This book puts words to thoughts and doesn’t sugar coat anything. Saved me hundreds in therapy!

Excellent book. You learn so much about yourself and your past behaviors. It clears the air on life choices and events. It’s a must read.

I heard about the book but thought it was exaggerated, it wasn’t! It’s very very good and everyone wanting to get the best out of relationships needs to read this book.

Great for learning and understanding your attachment style as well as the people around you

I enjoyed some of the insights this book offers but it’s clear the authors have an easier time relating to people with an anxious attachment style, than they are with avoidantly attached people. The writing’s on the wall in the very first example. The latter group tend to get cast as villains while it’s abundantly reinforced that the needs of the former group are valid.

It also promotes people to “just” find a partner who’s secure. Several of the examples of “effective communication”, especially the one the book closes with are borderline manipulative.

I learned stuff from this book, but unfortunately can’t recommend it.

Very insightful!

For sure people address relationships in either an acceptance, anxious, or avoidance style, that is rather obvious. What the authors dance around is that likely 95% of the anxious people are female, and 95% of the avoidant people are male(homosexuals excepted). The authors do a politically correct tap dance around the elephant in the room and as such, the value of the book is degraded by their dishonesty. As one avoidant straight male, the most sought after females for a satisfying relationship are avoidant females, AKA Friends with Benefits; unfortunately avoidant females tend to be Lesbians for the most part. Another subject not covered in the book.

Helped me greatly very thankful ♥️

It’s a good, informational book. Easy to understand and identify with. Wish they went more into how to figure out what your needs are.

A must read for understanding attachment styles in relationships. I think this book would benefit absolutely anyone who reads it.

Mind blown, I needed this book like 20 years ago. I have learned so much about myself and now have new tools to use.

This is what I needed, to accept myself as me and love myself enough to know how I need to be loved and better see the way I need to love those in my relationships.

My therapist had recommended this book and it completely helped me have a better understanding of my partner and myself

Such an informative and thought provoking read!

I wish I would’ve have read this book a long time ago. I probably would’ve understood myself much better. But I’m in a great relationship right now and will be applying what I’ve learned to it.

I highly recommend this book, through doing research for a course, I had this book on my list and finished it quite quickly and received so much information I was looking for + tools + clarity and hope ❤️

This was a really interesting read. There are a lot of interesting concepts, but in places it felt like the authors were overly confident in making assumptions. I also feel like these types of books can over simplify peoples personalities.

It was really detailed on how to go about changing certain situations and explaining the meaning behind different problems faced in anxious-avoidant relationships, while giving insight on how secure people act in relationships, how they have mastered it. He really hit the nail on the head. Recommend!

I enjoyed learning what my own & my wife’s attachment style is. Next time we have a disagreement, I’ll be sure to focus on the core issue and respond with a secure attachment.

Lovedddd it. Easy to read great examples. I recommend to everyone!

I recently broke up with my girlfriend and didn't understand why some of the tatics I used hurt her. I thought jealousy was part of the game. I was very upset if she didn't return my texts or calls right away when she was hanging with her friends. I thought this was a normal reaction. Then I found this book and read it in a week. It has not only helped me with my romantic life but also with relationships with friends and family. I'll probably re-read this several times over.

So grateful for this book. Can’t believe it was only a few clicks away all this time. It gave me the real answers and even closure I didn’t know I needed. This should be required reading for all.

I don’t think I’ll ever be the same after reading this book. I’m very thankful it was given to me.

I have read various relationship books, but most of them never descend from their theoretical and/or academic narratives to a level that provides advice which can be easily applied day to day.

Attached, on the other hand, not only lays out information in a concise and clear manner, but outlines various strategies for navigating interpersonal relationships effectively given your attachment style.

While I did not agree necessarily all assertions put forth by the authors, I found the content of Attached to be largely sound, and I have applied much of the advise therein with success. I would highly recommend this book to anyone who wants to learn more about different emotional dispositions and how those affect relationship dynamics.

It really help me understand the difference types of attachment. It helped understand who I am, what I am , what I need and what kind of attachment i should go for.

This book should be a mandatory read for kids. It would save them unnecessary heartache and time. I only wish I read this book much sooner in my life. It took meeting a secure man and losing him due to my anxious attachment style to have a friend introduce me to this book. Life changing! I’m excited to start dating again and put these new-found principles into practice!

As a man who is 34 and has been in several serious relationships that were great, but also had their hardships this book has given me insight into what was really going on. Moving forward with fresh eyes now and I would like to thank everyone involved with the book for all the knowledge and work that and went into the making of it.

I think it’s dumb that you can’t sample the book? The first couple of chapters are most important.

Many things that I’ve learned about how I perceive love and some ways to combatant the unnecessary game playing that is implicit within my romantic relationships.

This book was instrumental in healing from my divorce and helped put me on a new path for my life. Whether you are in a relationship or experiencing the ending of one, this book will help you understand yourself and your partner.

Reading this was like reading about my own life. It’s good to have a little background information about attachment psychology, but the authors do a great job of providing clear and realistic examples. Eye-opening and necessary to fix problematic relationship behavior and understand yourself more deeply.

Great book to know know what you’re.

It is a good book to learn yourself and improve the communication styles. It is focused on that topics and somewhat over simplified other complicating factors. It is important for the readers to know the limitation and wisely apply themselves.

This book made me realize why I have such a hard time being in a relationship. I'm the rare anxious/avoidant attachment style. It's impossible to to want someone in my life at the same time not wanting to feel smothered by too much attention. I'm working with a therapist who is a specialist in trauma and uses the Internal Family Systems therapy.

Currently nursing a broken heart and sorting through all kinds of emotions. A friend recommended that I read this book to better understand myself and also my ex. It was a great read and forced me to hold a mirror to myself. Also made me hopeful that in the future, I can not only work on myself in a relationship but I can pick a partner and weed out incompatible ones more quickly.

I'm anxious and my wife is avoidant. The examples and descriptions in this book were 95% accurate around how I feel and very accurate around what I perceive my wife is feeling. If she reads this book I think we can repair our marriage and bring back the happy days we had in the first couple of years. I feel that early on we both managed to care for each other's emotional well being but as life stresses added up (baby, money, move to another state, college, etc) we started to fall back on our natural dispositions and things have spiraled down in the vicious cycle that anxious-avoidant relationships have. Thank you for clearly expressing this theory. In my opinion it is spot on.

This was a great resource for unearthing the reasons why I am the way I am, and a way for me to better understand why my boyfriend is the way he is! Without this book breaking it down for me, I would be left confused and bewildered. Thank you to the authors for researching this very important aspect of relationships and delivering it to the world with real-life case studies and patient testimonies.